During my journey of healing I find myself regularly finding new territory or having sudden realizations.
My newest revelation is that the time has come---or is at least rapidly approaching--is that I need to find a new social circle and enlarge my circle of friends.
People who have lost a spouse almost always feel abandoned by old friends because those friendships were in relation to a couple, not a single person.
I don't feel abandoned and I'm confident old friends remain my friends, even if they don't quite know how to respond to me as a single man. But I do feel I have moved out of their social circle.
So I need to start reaching out to establish new social circles and, with them, new friends. I know that will take time because I rarely make instant friends but given time, I make good friends.
Two further comments--I have absolutely no resentment, none at all. I appreciate all the good people who care for me.
Second I'm looking for people to hang out with, not for dating relationships. The time for that has not come.
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